Being an empath, sensitive to other’s energies, is really a double edged sword. On one hand it allows me to be able to read people, both who they are and what joys and sorrows they carry within…on the other hand I also know when energy is directed right at me.

We All Have This Ability – Some of Us Are Consciously Aware of it and Some of Us Are Not

We all feel this energy

• You may sense when people are looking at you
• You walk into a room and you can feel the tension
• You get creeped out for no apparent reason
• You can feel when people are standing too close to you without even seeing them

The main problem with this innate empathy isn’t that we have this ability it’s that we take everything so personally.

Here’s something most people, even aware empaths, don’t know…

It’s Never About the Other Person

Let me back up for just a minute a talk a little bit about basic psychology.

We all live in our own little bubble of beliefs. And, we all assume the rules that we set for ourselves based on those beliefs are Fact or Truth or the way Everyone Should think, feel and act. We identify so strongly with these beliefs we take them on as our core essence. When people act contrary to our rules (beliefs) we feel like we are being personally attacked.

Imagine a world where every feels as though they are being personally attacked every time someone doesn’t say or do something that aligns with the rules they have set up for themselves… you don’t have to imagine it, this is the world we live in.

Now, let’s add in the energy of others that we feel within us from our innate empathy ability that we don’t even know we have – we feel like we’re being attacked from the inside and the outside!!

So, what’s the solution?

Stop Taking Everything So Personally – It Isn’t About You

And paradoxically,

Stop Expecting Others To Act the Way You Think They Should – That IS ONLY ABOUT YOU

It’s only in recognizing that we have these Unrealistic Expectations of others that we can release Ourselves from the need to have everyone behave the way we think they Should in order for our would to feel safe and sane…

While at the same time understanding that Others are also Trapped in their Unrealistic Expectations of us and release the need to make it about us…because it has nothing to do with us.

It sounds so complicated and yet it’s really simple, we just need to

• Allow everyone, including ourselves, to be exactly as they/we are, warts and all
• While holding the belief that Everyone Everywhere, including Us, wants to live in complete Love and Joy and will as soon as they/we can figure out how

Starting today why not break the habit of judging others and allowing other’s judgements to have an impact on you? (And, by the way, accepting a positive judgement can also have a negative impact on you)

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Cat Parah offers Intuitive Happiness Coaching. When you’re ready to Awaken Your Intuitive Happiness contact Cat at cat.parah@gmail.com.

The information, sessions and workshops I offer are at no time meant to replace medical advice. Although I am certified in many complimentary therapies, I am not a licensed medical physician. If you are experiencing physical, mental, emotional issues please seek advice from a licensed physician.